My name is Mark and I’ve been on a Sugar Daddy dating site for several months called privatearrangements.com and have shared many stories with fellow Sugar Daddies on Seeking Private arrangements and how to date a Sugar Baby. Since I am fairly open with this aspect of my life, I get a lot of people writing to me asking how to go about dating a Sugar Baby. It’s about time I write about how I got down to it.
When I first started thinking about seeking private arrangements, I truly had no idea how to go about it. I thought, well in order to have a sugar baby in the first place, the first order of business is obvious! I have to find her. I took a look around and found a site called PrivateArrangements.com. When I signed up, I noticed it had a huge variety of people to choose from. Its a platform was clean, simple, and easy to use. It also had several search options that really helped me find exactly what I was looking for. It also holds an excellent arrangement of articles in its blog that helped me shape myself up a bit and gave me plenty of great tips.
I thought to myself, ’I’m ready. I can do this no problem. I started making my profile. Now, let’s be honest here. When I first started dating, there wasn’t any internet. I like to think I am a suave sort of fellow when talking face to face with someone, but making an online profile was a lot more difficult than I ever thought it would be. It took me about an hour to get everything all done precisely how I wanted it. When it was completed, I sat down with drink and browsed through the searches.
Quite a few Sugar Babies caught my eye. So calming my nerves, I shot them a message. I waited, and waited, and waited. It seemed that no matter what I did, I couldn’t seem to get a response from anyone. No matter how much I tried! I took a sip of the whiskey I was happily swirling and frowned. What was I doing wrong? Maybe it needed some time, but one day turned into two days, four days, two weeks. Nothing. There had to be some sort of trick to this that I simply wasn’t understanding.
After two weeks of no responses, I started to get a little upset. The reviews I read about Privatearrangements.com were amazing, so it couldn’t be that, could it? Honestly, it’s a very common problem now that I look back at it. I found out much later that making the first move for any Sugar Daddy of any experience was often difficult. Like other Sugar Daddies I spoke with, I wondered if she would ever respond back? What should I say? It seemed as though it was never the easiest thing to do.
I took some time to read a couple articles from privatearrangements.com to see if any of them could help me out. I found out that when I didn’t get a response back, there were likely several reasons for it. The first one is that they simply didn’t find me to be what they were looking for. However, it could have been the message itself or my profile.
I really wanted to make this work and I knew that I had what a Sugar Baby could want, so how do I show it without being face to face? The first thing I had to remind myself of was that the way that a person speaks online is just as important as the way they speak in person. This was also a tip in one of the articles I read. I backtracked a little bit and had noticed that some of my messages were riddled with typos. I didn’t even notice, which was the worst part!
I knew that I was a tasteful gentleman and an excellent conversationalist, so I went to searching. These days, there really is an app for everything. After downloading my app that helped me find spelling and grammatical errors, I took a second look at my profile and thought maybe it was a combination of my spelling and some of the things I was speaking about on my profile as well. Cracking my knuckles I went to work.
The first thing I noticed (other than a few spelling errors) now that I had a little more knowledge about seeking private arrangements online from privatearrangements.com was that my ‘About Me’ section was very thin. I had to think: what am I looking for? The thought of what I am looking for helped me completely re-arrange my profile from top to bottom. I would want a Sugar Baby that was honest about themselves. Myself? I might had lied a little about my height, so I bit the bullet and fixed that up.
I would also want to know more about who the Sugar Baby was in the means of what she liked to do in her free time and her passions. So I set about filling in my profile in this manner as well. The last thing I discovered was from another article I read detailing how Sugar Babies don’t actually want to talk about money right of the bat. Aha, I thought, and got that right out of my profile.
I soon discovered why coming straight out of the gate with how much money I have and am willing to give to her is more of a turn off than anything. When I thought about if it was me looking at the profile I thought, I wouldn’t want to have a Sugar Baby that was only interested in money myself. While she obviously needs some money and that’s why she is seeking private arrangements, she also wants to know that I’m a decent human being. I thought again, what do I want in a Sugar Baby? When I am looking for a Sugar Baby, I want someone that is not just interested in my wallet. I want to have a Sugar Baby who has ambition for herself. Someone that is excited about the potential of my experience both professionally, socially, and sexually.
In my ‘About Me’ section, I also talked about why I wanted to become a Sugar Daddy. I have since found that I don’t need to tell a Sugar Baby why I am becoming a Sugar Daddy. It’s like how sometimes I will get people who phone me about a service I can provide and they go on about themselves in the strangest way. They tell me their name, where they are from, why they are doing the type of work they are doing and all I’m thinking is ‘Buddy, just ask the question’. Then it clicked.
Honestly, she doesn’t care. A seasoned Sugar Baby would know all about the various reasons someone gets involved in the sugar bowl and she is likely to respect my choices and my privacy. Why I am involved is irrelevant.
Finally my profile was up to par. I had cleaned up all the spelling errors, uploaded new more flattering photos of myself, made sure I wasn’t ‘fibbing’ any information like my height and weight, and I expanded my ‘About Me’. In the ‘About Me,’ I introduced myself and shared where I worked and what I did. I shared a little about some of my hobbies and touched on what I was looking for. No longer did I mention anything about money or about why I had become a Sugar Daddy. To my surprise, I was approached by a Sugar Baby about an hour later!
We got to chatting about our mutual interests. I mentioned that I love the Opera and she mentioned that she was going to the Opera on the weekend. Tatiana was her name. She fit the physical description of what I liked and she conducted herself very well online. I asked, a few messages in, if she would be interested in a Skype call and potentially talking about meeting face-to-face. She gladly accepted.
Tatiana and I talked for hours and eventually decided to book another Opera together for our first date. She was incredibly intelligent, wanted to go to medical school to become a surgeon, but came from a rougher childhood. I immediately knew that she was the one I wanted as my Sugar Baby. It’s been several months since she had become my Sugar Baby. I am much happier now and I couldn’t have found her without all the helpful tips and tricks packed away on privatearrangements.com